Building the Marriage You Want

The Biggest Myth Couples Face Today Is That if Marriage Is Hard, It Must Be Broken

That you’ll feel like roommates forever. That you’ve grown too far apart. That your relationship has simply run its course.

This. Is. False.

Marriage feels harder now than ever because we’re asking it to do things it was never designed to do. And millions of spouses are struggling under the weight of trying to be everything to each other while also balancing work, parenting and maxed-out calendars.

In his new book, Building the Marriage You Want, Dr. John Delony distills reams of research, thousands of conversations with couples, and his personal experience over 25 years of marriage into a framework for how to be married well in the 21st century.

Not a surface-level fix, but a new foundation to build your relationship on—one anchored in the specific things every spouse needs in a marriage: to be seen, known, celebrated and challenged.

How to Build the Marriage You Actually Want

John shows you how focusing on what you and your spouse genuinely need from each other can help you stop being comanagers and become a team again.

And he gives you the tools to make it happen in your marriage, including:

• A new playbook for communication and conflict in marriage
• The honest sex talk we never got
• A new lens for dealing with money in your marriage
• Uncomfortable truths about being married with kids

Where Your Marriage Is Today Doesn’t Have to Determine What Comes Next

By the end of the book, you’ll be ready to stop co-managing your marriage and start building one you truly want, together.

Connected. All in. Ride or die.

Preorder today and unlock $100+ in bonus items. You’ll get:

• An exclusive video: Dr. John Delony on Connected Communication, delivered instantly ($60 value)
• Early e-book access ($24.99 value)
• The enhanced audiobook, read by Dr. John Delony ($24.99 value)

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About the author:
Dr. John Delony, a three-time national bestselling author and host of The Dr. John Delony Show, helps millions of people navigate relationships and build marriages worth fighting for. He holds two PhDs and spent two decades in crisis response, sitting knee-to-knee with people in their hardest moments, before joining Ramsey Solutions in 2020. John writes, speaks and teaches on marriage, relationships and mental health and has appeared on Good Morning America, CNN and Fox News.

Author: Dr. John Delony

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Building the Marriage You Want about?

Building the Marriage You Want is about how to be married well in the 21st century. Dr. John Delony gives you a new foundation to build your relationship on, anchored in four things every spouse needs: to be seen, known, celebrated and challenged.

Who is Building the Marriage You Want for?

This book is for anyone who feels like marriage is harder than they expected. If you feel more like roommates than spouses, struggle to communicate without arguing, or just want to feel connected to your spouse again, this book is for you.

What will I learn in Building the Marriage You Want?

You’ll learn a new framework for how to be married well in the 21st century—one built around what you and your spouse genuinely need from each other. Then Dr. John Delony will give you the tools to put it into practice, including:

A new playbook for communication and conflict in marriage

• The honest sex talk you never got
• A new lens for money in marriage
• Uncomfortable truths about being married with kids